Showing posts with label trust. Show all posts
Showing posts with label trust. Show all posts
Wednesday, December 11, 2013
Quote of the Day
“We cannot rely on ourselves, for we have learned by bitter experience the folly of self-confidence. We are compelled to look to the Lord alone. Blessed is the wind that drives the ship into the harbor. Blessed is the distress that forces us to rest in our God." [Charles H. Spurgeon]
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Quote of the Day 10/4/11
"I’m trusting You’re the way
I’m trusting You’re the way
Trusting You’re the way my Savior"
[Taken from Tim Hughes recent song "Counting On Your Name"]
This song takes my breath away, check it out:
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
is trust a must?
"Love all, trust few."
“We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.”
“The best proof of love is trust.”
“Doubt is the beginning not the end of wisdom.”
The quotations above reflect a common theme; the theme of trust. So what is trust? Webster's defines trust as "assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something." To me, trust is a one syllable words with a countless amount of possibilities. I think that each person, based on how they were raised and past experiences, approaches trust from a different perspective. Some people can trust anyone instantly and others take weeks, even years to fully trust someone or something.
Is it wrong to trust right away? Or is it wrong to wait? Personally, my life philosophy has been to love all, trust few. Some have told me thats a smart way to go and some have flat out told me that is a horrible way to live. I appreciate their honesty, however, my family has raised me to live that way and I cannot thank them enough for it. As I look back on the the girls in middle school I wanted to open up myself too, or the cute boy who has almost convinced you that he would never ever break your heart, or even a hairdresser (isn't that what their second job is, talking?) , I am beyond thankful that I did not.
Was it a lack of trust or just a custom that went from the home to the daily public life? Probably some sort of combination of the two. I know that as I look back, I remember moments in my life where I felt really telling someone whats on my heart or my mind or in my past and yet, this feeling deep, down somewhere told me not to. I realize now how thankful I am that I listened to this inner voice. Being so called "optimistic but realistic" I know that everyone has moments of weakness and failure. We are only human, and each one of us has unknowingly (or knowingly) compromised or even broken the trust they had with someone else. We have all done it. Some of us, in moments of weakness, have the tendency to just use what we know about someone in order to get them back. Although we all regret it in the morning, revenge may temporarily satisfy our hurt.
The thing is that once words are spoken, there is no talking them back. We say that "sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never hurt me," yet we all, at our core, know this is not true. Even the strongest can break down when enough words are spoken.
The other thought that crosses my mind is the ever so famous question "Why don't you trust me?" All of us have repeatedly, at various points, angrily shouted this question at our parents. My mother, the smart woman she is, always had the same answer: "I trust you, but with trust comes verification." At first response, the thought is, "you must have doubt if you need to verify me in the first place." But looking back, I understand EXACTLY where she is coming from. We are all human, we all make mistakes, and at some points we have all wanted to cheat a little, to cut a corner and see how much we can get away with.
Therefore, I stand firm in my philosophy. Not everyone has to be trusted and it is okay to have doubt. Doubt is a part of our human nature. If the person waiting for your trust really truly, honestly desires your trust then they will wait. If someone cannot wait, then maybe they do not deserve your trust in the first place. Trust does not happen over night, or in a week or in a month, it is a life long process, that grows and matures with time. One of my favorite quotes is: "Sometimes we put up walls not to keep people out but rather to see who is willing to knock them down." I think its okay to put a wall where necessary, to see a persons true colors. Does this mean we should do through life being skeptical of all humanity? Definitely not. Trust is the cornerstone of love and everyone wants to be loved. Just remember that everyone is human, and trust is a risk. If the person is right, then the risk is worth taking but figuring out if the person is meant to be trusted? Well, that one is up to y'all....no one said life was going to be easy.... :)
“We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.”
“The best proof of love is trust.”
“Doubt is the beginning not the end of wisdom.”
The quotations above reflect a common theme; the theme of trust. So what is trust? Webster's defines trust as "assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something." To me, trust is a one syllable words with a countless amount of possibilities. I think that each person, based on how they were raised and past experiences, approaches trust from a different perspective. Some people can trust anyone instantly and others take weeks, even years to fully trust someone or something.
Is it wrong to trust right away? Or is it wrong to wait? Personally, my life philosophy has been to love all, trust few. Some have told me thats a smart way to go and some have flat out told me that is a horrible way to live. I appreciate their honesty, however, my family has raised me to live that way and I cannot thank them enough for it. As I look back on the the girls in middle school I wanted to open up myself too, or the cute boy who has almost convinced you that he would never ever break your heart, or even a hairdresser (isn't that what their second job is, talking?) , I am beyond thankful that I did not.
Was it a lack of trust or just a custom that went from the home to the daily public life? Probably some sort of combination of the two. I know that as I look back, I remember moments in my life where I felt really telling someone whats on my heart or my mind or in my past and yet, this feeling deep, down somewhere told me not to. I realize now how thankful I am that I listened to this inner voice. Being so called "optimistic but realistic" I know that everyone has moments of weakness and failure. We are only human, and each one of us has unknowingly (or knowingly) compromised or even broken the trust they had with someone else. We have all done it. Some of us, in moments of weakness, have the tendency to just use what we know about someone in order to get them back. Although we all regret it in the morning, revenge may temporarily satisfy our hurt.
The thing is that once words are spoken, there is no talking them back. We say that "sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never hurt me," yet we all, at our core, know this is not true. Even the strongest can break down when enough words are spoken.
The other thought that crosses my mind is the ever so famous question "Why don't you trust me?" All of us have repeatedly, at various points, angrily shouted this question at our parents. My mother, the smart woman she is, always had the same answer: "I trust you, but with trust comes verification." At first response, the thought is, "you must have doubt if you need to verify me in the first place." But looking back, I understand EXACTLY where she is coming from. We are all human, we all make mistakes, and at some points we have all wanted to cheat a little, to cut a corner and see how much we can get away with.
Therefore, I stand firm in my philosophy. Not everyone has to be trusted and it is okay to have doubt. Doubt is a part of our human nature. If the person waiting for your trust really truly, honestly desires your trust then they will wait. If someone cannot wait, then maybe they do not deserve your trust in the first place. Trust does not happen over night, or in a week or in a month, it is a life long process, that grows and matures with time. One of my favorite quotes is: "Sometimes we put up walls not to keep people out but rather to see who is willing to knock them down." I think its okay to put a wall where necessary, to see a persons true colors. Does this mean we should do through life being skeptical of all humanity? Definitely not. Trust is the cornerstone of love and everyone wants to be loved. Just remember that everyone is human, and trust is a risk. If the person is right, then the risk is worth taking but figuring out if the person is meant to be trusted? Well, that one is up to y'all....no one said life was going to be easy.... :)
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
No You Can't Hurry Love
The Supremes left me with a little piece of wisdom:
You can't hurry love/No, you just have to wait
You got to trust, give it time/No matter how long it takes
Our society most definitely does not like the word "wait." We do not like to wait for anyone or anything. We constantly need faster phones, faster service and faster cars (although fast cars are simply a necessity in my opinion). But what about love? Do we hurry that too? Just look at all the magazine covers around you and all thats seen is "Make him fall in love with you by tomorrow" or "5 easy steps to get a man by summer."
I like to get things fast. I like fast shipping, instant coffee and I like instant play on Netflix but somehow I don't think that love should just be rushed. Do I want to fall in love? Of course I do, most people want to fall in love. We were created to want relationships and to want love but finding love isn't easy and meeting the right person to fall in love with is even harder.
What is the most precious thing you own? Your MacBook? Your car? Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue? Have you ever considered... your heart? I challenge you with this idea; your heart is the most precious thing you have. So how many times have you given out your heart? or even just a piece of your heart to someone else? Well be honest and now count how many of those people deserved it? Countless emotions and feelings poured out, which if we're still being honest here most likely result in heartbreak and heartache.
The problem is that once we do it once or twice, we continue to do it more and more. We keep opening up and the more we do, the more we hurt and the more we need someone else to attempt to fill in that void. Its a vicious cycle that repeats over and over and over again and thus we begin to settle, lower our standards and just hope for some temporary satisfaction.
I present a second challenge: guard your heart. Only one person out there deserves it, just one. Frankly it will take lots of waiting for most of us, but you cant hurry love, and you just have to wait. That one person wants your whole heart, so why let unworthy others recklessly chip away at it. The more you break something, the more fragile it is so therefore theres only so much a heart can take before it breaks. Can a heart be put back together? Yes, but a broken heart with millions of pieces will take a long time to heal and it will never be the same again.
Each of us has been granted by the Creator "somebody to love" and that person will love us equally back. That person wants us, all of us, the good and the bad, through sickness and in health so forget about rushing and hurrying and trying to catch a man (or a woman for any men reading this) in "5 easy steps" because he or she is out there and they deserve your heart, all of it and it probably won't be easy, but it will be well worth the wait.
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