No You Can't Hurry Love

     The Supremes left me with a little piece of wisdom:

You can't hurry love/No, you just have to wait

You got to trust, give it time/No matter how long it takes

     Our society most definitely does not like the word "wait." We do not like to wait for anyone or anything. We constantly need faster phones, faster service and faster cars (although fast cars are simply a necessity in my opinion). But what about love? Do we hurry that too? Just look at all the magazine covers around you and all thats seen is "Make him fall in love with you by tomorrow" or "5 easy steps to get a man by summer." 

     I like to get things fast. I like fast shipping, instant coffee and I like instant play on Netflix but somehow I don't think that love should just be rushed. Do I want to fall in love? Of course I do, most people want to fall in love. We were created to want relationships and to want love but finding love isn't easy and meeting the right person to fall in love with is even harder.

     What is the most precious thing you own? Your MacBook? Your car? Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue? Have you ever considered... your heart? I challenge you with this idea; your heart is the most precious thing you have. So how many times have you given out your heart? or even just a piece of your heart to someone else? Well be honest and now count how many of those people deserved it? Countless emotions and feelings poured out, which if we're still being honest here most likely result in heartbreak and heartache. 

     The problem is that once we do it once or twice, we continue to do it more and more. We keep opening up and the more we do, the more we hurt and the more we need someone else to attempt to fill in that void. Its a vicious cycle that repeats over and over and over again and thus we begin to settle, lower our standards and just hope for some temporary satisfaction.

     I present a second challenge: guard your heart. Only one person out there deserves it, just one. Frankly it will take lots of waiting for most of us, but you cant hurry love, and you just have to wait. That one person wants your whole heart, so why let unworthy others recklessly chip away at it. The more you break something, the more fragile it is so therefore theres only so much a heart can take before it breaks. Can a heart be put back together? Yes, but a broken heart with millions of pieces will take a long time to heal and it will never be the same again.  

     Each of us has been granted by the Creator "somebody to love" and that person will love us equally back. That person wants us, all of us, the good and the bad, through sickness and in health so forget about rushing and hurrying and trying to catch a man (or a woman for any men reading this) in "5 easy steps" because he or she is out there and they deserve your heart, all of it and it probably won't be easy, but it will be well worth the wait.