stumbling upon differences..

I have a new obsessions... with stumbleupon. Since discovering the website, I have read some pretty interesting articles. Psychology is one of my "interests" and thus the site has provided me with some great article about how differently men and women see things or interpret things. Heres a few things I found interesting. Women, Do you agree or disagree?


The Article "How to Speak Woman" :

Research suggests that women use body language up to six times more than men. But it doesn’t take Sherlock to deduct that men are a little behind the curve in deciphering it. With a quick tutorial on "woman speak" plus a little body language knowledge, you could begin improving communication with your wife or girlfriend. Try these tips:

The Red Lights

Nothing’s really been resolved if you hear these words:

It’s fine. No. It’s not fine. It’s not fine at all. And usually when she says this, her body will not be facing you directly. Whether it’s her gaze, her shoulders, her hips or all of the above, she’s letting you know that the conversation isn’t over. And take note if she says this while taking out the garbage, painting the dining room, or changing a dirty diaper. She asked for some help with the task at hand, and you kind of didn’t step up.

Whatever. Oh man. Whatever you said or did, she didn’t like it. Are you sitting down at dinner? Maybe in a car? Look for her body to be moved as far back away from you as possible. Her torso could be shifted, her feet may be tucked under the chair, or she might be sighing really loudly. Give her some space. She’s mulling it over.

What I want is… As a broad, general rule, women disguise direct wants and needs with words like "I would like" or "I’m thinking of doing." So when you hear this clear, cut, concise language — kind of like the way you would talk — she’s telling you how to fix the problem. If she ends her explanation with a question, she would like for the conversation to continue, ideally with your point of view.

The Green Lights

On the flip side, women have ways of verbally letting you know that things are going great. While these hints aren’t foolproof, they’re decent enough gauges to be aware of. Things to look for:

What are you thinking? She’s opening the door for connection, and she may have something to talk about. There are two roads to take here: If you say, "nothing," be ready. Even if your head is honest-to-God filled with nothing but flat lines, women won’t believe you. There’s never nothing going through their heads, so if they hear "nothing," they may think you’re hiding something. If you answer with whatever it is you’re really thinking about, look for a touch on your arm or hand. This move is helping her break down barriers with some quick and simple skin-on-skin contact.

Anything in a whisper. The lean and whisper is a move used by women everywhere — girlfriends, potential girlfriends, wives — usually with a high success rate. Talking quieter implies intimacy, a secret connection, and what she’s trying to say is that she’s feeling it.