Can I ask you a question?

     Whenever we meet new people, it is usually pretty awkward. I think partially because we always use the "where are you from/ what do you like to do for fun/ do you have any pets?" questions. If we are honest with ourselves, we hate answering those questions and we hate asking them but we do it because we want to find something to connect with. A few months ago someone asked me a question that took some effort to answer. A question that made me pause and think for a while. That question was: "what are your personal philosophies?"
     What that person was trying to ask me was essential why are you the way you are, like what guides you, whats makes you, you. Its honestly something I haven't thought much about and probably most of us haven't. Like how do we make the choices we make, befriend the people we befriend or deal with conflict. Like do we have a certain way that we always approach each situation or it varies?
     Today, someone told me that one of their "philosophies" is to "Love big." They said that they believe in letting everyone in and giving out as much love as they can. In their opinion, when you love big, people open up to you and find comfort in you. They want to be the most comforting, nurturing person they can be.
     Someone else told me they frankly look at things very black and white. They believe that there is a standard that people need to be help up to and accountable to. I also heard from someone that they just don't befriend people of the same gender and that makes their lives a lot easier (fair enough).
     I have been thinking about blogging about this topic for months and ironically someone asked me, last night, this same question. One philosophy or idea I always keep in mind when it comes to other people is that I want every person I talk to, to feel special and important. Everyone deserves to feel special. It is sad to me that people give attention many times only to people they like or are interested in. I believe, from the bottom of my heart, that people should always feel special, that they are the center of your attention. This idea alone guides many of my thoughts and actions. Everyone has a story to tell and can provide some really good insight, even when you least expect it.
     I am still figuring out exactly what "philosophies" guide my actions, thus this post is still under construction. I appreciate all the feedback and there is more to come :)